Courting someone who will accept your proposal isn't an easy task, another toughest task is introducing him or her to your family. Let's talk about you introducing him or her to your family members.
Your expectations will be obviously wanting your family to like your significant and at the same time you will want their honest opinion o ln what they think about the idea.
Embarrassment will be on its tune especially if you have a dramatic family, but you will have no option because they will remain being a family.
Here are some tips to help you cross this bridge when the time comes:
1. Talk to your family before the meeting
First step is to make them sit down and express your serious opinion. Meeting the family could either mean good or bad for the relationship so first impression is very important. Explain what you expect from them and how they should carry themselves around their potential in law.
2. Keep the meeting short
First meetings should be only introduction and not interrogation. Too much time with your family then stories will turn into questions and questions know how to find the worst in people. Make them feel trapped amongst your kin by intentionally offending your partner.
3. Go slow on the baggage
Remember this is your first meeting, so go to the relevant topic. Do not talk about your partner having w child or earning less or more than you. Don’t bring up topics that are likely to rile up your family and result to judgements because at the end of the day you are with them for a reason.
4. Don’t leave them alone for too long
The purpose of the meeting was your family know your partner, leaving them alone for too long is a bad idea. You can intermittently be showing up and ask if the meeting is doing okay but if the meeting is over dinner, the better, you will be there the whole time.
5. Have your secret cues
You know your family better and it would be wise to have some hidden cues on when your partner would like you to swoop in and change the subject. Also this way you will be able to know those giving your partner hell and how to handle the situation.
6. Fill them in on family dynamics
Your partner should know the fact that no family is perfect. To avoid your family crossing any line or witnessing a drama that they weren't anticipating, inform them about sensitive topics and people that easily get offended.
7. Remind them that your opinion matters
At the end of it all, inform your partner that everything is going to be fine and your opinion matters. There is nothing as worst as your partner feeling like you have left them alone to fend for themselves amongst your family members.
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