The feeling of loving someone and being loved in return is something that all humans want, and those who are fortunate enough to have this experience in their lives are extremely blessed.
We, as humans, have a proclivity to lie in some situations where we feel compelled to defend ourselves.
When two people are in a relationship, the same thing happens. When you do anything that may jeopardize your relationship, you may find yourself in this scenario.
As a result, to keep your loved ones, you lie to them. This one deception eventually leads to a hundred more, and the relationship is eventually destroyed.
It is always preferable, to tell the truth rather than makeup lies. If you've made the mistake of lying to your partner, the best and wisest course of action is to confess.
While confessing your lies to your partner, there are a few things to keep in mind.
1. Recognize that your partner is intelligent, sensible and sensitive.
Never assume that your companion won't understand what you're saying. If you are truthful and honest while confessing your lies, your partner is likely to at least try to understand you. It won't help if you think of your partner as someone who won't understand you. Appreciate her in everything good she does.
2. Refrain from retaliating and keep your cool.
When you've spoken hundreds of falsehoods to your partner, who has always trusted you, you should expect a reaction. They may become enraged and fight with you. It's critical to keep your cool in that situation and try to calm down your companion. Starting to fight back will just make things worse.
3. Recognize that blaming others will yield no positive results.
It's quite easy and normal to place blame for your lies on someone else. Your lies might be blamed on a variety of persons, situations, and other factors. It's important to remember that you decided to lie. Even if you had your motives for doing so, putting it on others is not a smart idea. If you were brave enough to deceive, you should also be brave enough to own your faults.
4. Self-victimization is not a viable option.
When a person lies or makes a mistake, he or she is prone to victimizing oneself to avoid the pain. Victimizing yourself is simple, and your partner may forgive you for your deception. However, it will not be a long-term or permanent solution. Rather than victimizing yourself, own your lies, take your time, and try to repair what you've broken.
5. Time heals all wounds; be patient.
When you have betrayed your partner's confidence, you must realize that it will take time for them to recover. There's no use in forcing anything during that delicate period. Even if you're telling the truth, there's a good possibility your partner won't believe you. The best thing to do at this point is to wait for time to heal you.
6. Recognize that it was you, not your partner, who made the mistake.
If you truly love your spouse and want to stay with him, you must be willing to fight for him. It is claimed that it takes a hundred truths to develop a relationship, but only one lie to destroy it. Your partner's behavior is simply a response to what you've done. You can't blame him/her for everything when you're the one who destroyed his/her heart. It is your responsibility to act responsibly and to be aware of your duties at the moment.
7. Consider the significance of the relationship.
When difficult circumstances come knocking on your door, it provides you the opportunity to reflect on everything. It's a good moment to reflect on how much your boyfriend and his company mean to you. Even if you've made a mistake, your reasonable self doesn't have to be overcome by your remorse. Organize your ideas and feelings, and simply try to return to normal.
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