Mpango wa Kando in Kenya is becoming rampant in relationship and destroying families. However, recent studies reveal that men are more prone to straying with more than one partner than women. Shockingly ,some men do this even when they are in happy marriages leaving women shocked on what the reasons are. Marriage therapists and psychological studies reveal that men cheat for virous reasons and that people are complex. The reasons fall into two categories-either the problem is with the individual or with the relationship.
1. He might be going through a "second adolescence."
In this case, your husband will always make you out to be like his mome. He will hide texts from you and try to stay out till late. This can unfortunately happen. Some men will have Mpango wa Kando because they are struggling with what therapists call 'second adolescence.
They 'parentify' their partner, sneaking around behind their backs, rebelling against the 'rules' of a committed partnership. These second adolescents are looking for separation and individuation, but want someone at home to make them feel secure.
2. He may have narcissistic qualities.
If someone's unfaithful, they may have an issue with empathy. "Anyone who cheats has a piece of narcissism to their personality," this is according to Walfish. (She says this is true for men and women.) "They’re not thinking about the impact of their own behavior on other people they love" — be it their partner, children, or the person they’ve become involved with.
3. He’s insecure.
This is where men start to feel old and worry that life and adventure is behind them. If you are not making them feel young , the will want to have another woman thinking such ladies will make them feel young and prime again. Your man may simply be trying to puff up his self esteem.This has a solution. If you notice your man has such a problem , try as much as you can to strike his ego.
4. He gets a rush from behaving badly …
Men that go for mpango wa kando may simply like that it's off-limits. This is because it is prohibited . Therefore, he maybe a type of a man who get high from the forbidden nature of things. ‘Because it feels wrong, it feels good,"
5. Not built for monogamy.
Some people really do feel that they can't be in monogamous relationships. If you are in a relationship where your cheating partner claims they are not 'naturally monogamous' and they give you the 'we are not born to be with one person' speech, then it’s likely they are not ready, willing, or don’t have the capacity to mate with one person. And they might be telling you the truth, they might not be cut out for monogamy.
Reasons Men Give When Caught in the Act
Shockingly, when all men are caught they will have almost similar ways to defend themselves . They will give you all reasons to continue being together with you. Some of the things men say when caught are : I didn’t mean to hurt you, I’ll change, I promise and You’re never around anymore. Some will even claim they were abused.
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