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7ways of dating a player

1.Beat him at his own game. 

If you really want to date a player, then you can be a playerette, if that’s your thing. If he’s seeing other girls while dating you, then what’s there to stop you from hanging out with a few other guys you’re crushing on? If he goes out late without saying what he’s up to, you’re free to do the same. Contrary to popular belief, not every single girl out there is looking for a stable relationship, kids, or a white picket fence. If you want to be a playerette, too, then go for it; of course, if that’s not your thing, don’t feel compelled to beat him at his own game.

2 Play hard to get. 

Another way to get a player’s attention is to play hard to get. If he thinks you’re at his beck and call, then he won’t have any incentive to chase you down. To play hard to get, don’t be there to answer the phone every time he calls. Don’t be available if he asks you out the day-of, or even the day before. Flirt with him, but don’t make him think he has you in the palms of his hands. Let him see that you’re worth the chase.

3.Keep your guard up. 

Don’t let a player get to know exactly who you are. You can reveal things to him, but don’t pour out your heart and soul to him, or you’re bound to be disappointed. You don’t have to lie or pretend like you don’t have feelings, but you don’t want to be completely vulnerable around the player unless you want to get burned. If he starts opening up to you a bit, you can follow suit, but make sure not to give too much up at once.

4.Keep doing your own thing. 

If you want to date a player, then you can’t spend all of your time at his side. You have to continue to be an independent woman and to enjoy the time you spend with your friends, doing the things you love, from yoga to writing poetry, and to maybe even look out for other guys while you’re at it. If you start doing all of the things the player does and losing interest in your own hobbies and your own lives, then a red flag will go up for him.

5.Don’t spend too much time with him. 

Don’t count on a player for too much quality time. Though you can go out once or even twice a week, he won’t be the guy who watches TV in his pajamas with you all day, and he won’t be free to meet up for lunch or brunch whenever you’re missing him. If you’re co-dependent or the type of person who loves spending 24/7 with whomever she’s dating, then this player is not for you.

6.Be friendly with his friends.

 If he’s a true player, then his friends may not take the time to really get to know you because they’ll be seeing you as the latest Flavor of the Week. Still, if you start coming around more often, there’s no need to be less than nice or even cold to his friends; work to be friendly with them and to show that you want to get to know them a bit without butting in to their conversations too much. At the end of the day, a player cares what his friends think about his girl, so it’s important to leave them with a good impression.

7.Stay in control.

 If you want to date a player, then you can’t let him make all the calls. He may think that he can tell you where to meet him and what you’ll be doing all the time, but it’s up to you to show him that you have other ideas. He can pick when and where to hang out, sometimes, but you can do the same. You don’t have to hang out around his schedule, either; he can hang out when it’s best for you. Staying in control of the relationship will make the player see that you’re a force to be reckoned with.

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