Here are some ways parents can actually tear your marriage apart, and what you and your spouse can do to tactfully and respectfully set boundaries:
1. Suddenly showing up without notice and overstaying their welcome.
Some parents are always protective and may want to know everything that’s going on in your lives, but the best way is to tell them you need your privacy and set up rules about calling before visits.
2. Assuming that you should always just submit because you’re their child.
Some parents believe you’ll observe the same rituals and traditions they had in their own marriage. The best way to disabuse them of this notion is to thank them for their opinions, but firmly convince them each marriage is different, and you and your spouse have made your own decisions as to where your union is headed, and how.
3. They keep providing for your family.
Gifts do come with strings attached they will soon dictate every single move in your marriage without you being able to say anything because of fear of losing the gift.Set rules about gifts not costing more than a certain amount.
4. Criticising your spouse.
Some parents believe no one is perfect enough for their child, tell them firmly that you have made your choice and you are happy with it, and they may either be nice to your significant other, or you’ll have to stop seeing them altogether.
5. They spoil your kids rotten
Grandparents are known to circumvent all the rules for their grandkids.And you will find your children loaded up with sweets or staying up way past their bedtime, try to stop these by shortening their visits to limit their influence on your children.
6.Its your spouse’s parents who are the repeat offenders
Insteadad of attacking your in-laws directly and making enemies for life, have an honest talk with your partner about how you feel. This way, you can both team up your efforts into making the in-law situation more bearable instead of allowing it to become worse.
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