Everyone is vulnerable to injury, and guys are no exception. Their sense of pride is inextricably tied to their sense of self-worth and self-confidence.
Even the toughest of men have weak places that cause pain when harmed. Unsurprisingly, we do a lot of nasty things without even realizing it because of the way we're taught to regard males (namely toxic masculinity).
The top ten things you do that damage him and his feelings if you're not careful are listed below.
1. Ignoring his viewpoints causes him pain.
Mutual respect is the foundation of relationships, and compromise is the driving force behind them.
You must value and respect your partner's viewpoints. You risk hurting his feelings and making him feel as if his wants and needs are unimportant to you if you don't do so.
In any relationship, disregarding the other's point of view is perilous; nevertheless, males are more sensitive to this. We, as women, frequently strive to be excessively controlling and, as a result, begin to make decisions for our partners. This might make them feel trapped and unheard, which can lead to frustration and pain.
Listening intently to your partner and then saying, "I fully understand what you mean, and I agree with you..." is a terrific technique I use all the time with my partner. Then I'd either put his counsel into effect or ask more questions, resulting in a final decision that was better suitable for both of us.
2. You caused him pain by concealing your true feelings.
Have you ever been so furious that your partner senses your mood shift and asks what's wrong, only for you to respond, "It's nothing!"? That's something I do as well.
You are not alone if you recognize yourself in this predicament. We have a tendency to bottle our emotions or tone them down, but men, contrary to popular perception, can detect when anything is wrong, so our masks won't deceive them.
Instead, it gets people angry and perplexed as to why we don't want to tell them what's on our thoughts. This can make him feel insecure about your relationship because it signals distrust to him.
Here's a piece of advice for you. Just be honest with him if you're trying to process your emotions. Admit if anything is bothering you and either offers a solution or ask for some time to calm down. Trust me when I say that he will value your opinion and give you as much time as you require.
3. Making hasty judgments can be hurtful and unfair.
There are several anecdotes and TV stereotypes concerning women's proclivity for jumping to conclusions.
Apart from making us chuckle, these events typically strike a chord with us because they are, for the most part, true.
This point is for you if you're the type of lady who doesn't spend any time blaming your partner for virtually everything. This manifests itself in my experience as a sense of insecurity and a loss of self-worth.
So, the next time you feel compelled to point fingers, try instead to explain your feelings to your boyfriend. I'm confident he'll tell you that there's nothing to be concerned about.
4. Trying to control him (you know this isn't a good idea)
You must recognize and respect that each partner in the relationship has the right to their own space.
Some ladies are perfectly OK with it, while others want to penetrate every single aspect of their partner's life. Some people go so far as to forbid their spouse from socializing with his buddies, which, as you can see, is excessive.
You must realize that your partner is not your property and that he has a right to a private life separate from your relationship. Dependence on him is another significant red flag for males whatever your reasons for breathing down your partner's neck, it will take a toll on your relationship.
5. When you call him names, it hurts his feelings.
Things can get heated at times, but no matter how intense the disagreement becomes, you should avoid saying things you don't mean.
While it's common for people to make mistakes during a fight, this might nonetheless leave a mark on your partner's mind. He'll inevitably wonder if you actually meant what you said after the dispute has died down and you're back on good terms.
6. Betraying his confidence
A relationship's trust can be shattered in a variety of ways, including name-calling and outright lying.
We are, however, well aware of the ultimate betrayal that everyone fears cheating in whatever form. Unfaithful behavior can manifest itself in both physical and emotional ways, but whatever the case may be, it is unpleasant, to say the least.
It might take a lot of effort and time to rebuild trust once it has been shattered. Even if you think you're making progress, things between you will almost certainly never be the same.
7. Attempting to change him causes him pain.
Men are extremely sensitive to attempts by women to modify them, yet regrettably, this is a common occurrence.
The reason for this is because when a woman loves a man, she believes it is her responsibility to assist him in growing and improving his life skills. In actuality, when a man's girlfriend gives unwelcome advice or proposes areas for growth, he hears that she doubts his knowledge and ability.
Keep in mind that your boyfriend doesn't need your assistance unless he specifically requests it; what he wants is your acceptance.
8. Being too harsh on him
It's entirely normal for us to have things we don't like about our spouses. Seeing his shortcomings is a sign of a healthy partnership in which you recognize that no one is flawless.
What's not right is when you forget that your sweetheart is just like you and start nitpicking every little flaw in his appearance that irritates you.
While it may be tempting to point out their flaws, keep in mind that words may be quite cruel at times. Your partner may see your criticism as a signal that he isn't good enough, which might make him feel uneasy and make him wonder why you're still with him.
As a result, attempt to accept your partner for who he is and learn to admire even his less-than-admirable characteristics.
9. Not being helpful
This is one of the most damaging things you've done to him.
If your partner has taken up a new pastime or accomplished something he is proud of, make an effort to recognize him.
Men, too, crave validation from the people they care about, and when they don't get it, it can make them doubt themselves. When he stops telling you about the things that thrill him, it's one of the signals that you've severely harmed him by ignoring his interest and failing to support him.
10. Demonstrating your self-sufficiency
Yes, we've all heard of the independent woman stereotype. Men, on the other hand, like to feel needed and provide for their ladies. If you can do everything alone and deliberately display it, he may begin to feel unwelcome and as if he isn't assisting you.
There's nothing wrong with laboring to open a jar, even though you're perfectly capable of doing so, only to have him come to your rescue. This will make him feel needed, and the opportunity to look after you will give his male ego a good boost.
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