This is a sensitive issue but I'll delve into it from my general life experiences and my own view. May God's spirit of wisdom and spirit of revelation guide me. Mine might not be 10 or 15 years old but at least I have a slight idea about what I need to do for it to last longer. It's never perfect, we keep learning daily. Learning how to understand and accommodate each other better.
Marriages are ordained by God and so they are sacred. Getting into one, marks the beginning of a family and a life-long commitment. Personally, i value the family unit. It's basic in the growth of a society.
There are several reasons as to why people get married. Both physical and emotional(spiritual): It could be because a lady has conceived accidentally and that forces the man to take up the responsibility because of the baby. Some visit magicians and sorcerers to win their partners(They call it love portion)-They never last. Some will get married because of the financial status of their partner.Some will end up in crazy marriages because of their family blood chains(Things like polygamy). Some will meet in a club, drink, go home together and just that way, end up getting married.For a certain lady, a man will pay her college fee, rent or just do her a favor then that compels her to get into a union. Still, there are marriages that are spiritual and are a result of prayer and trusting in God.
Divorce and murder cases have been on the rise in the recent past. This is because marriages can't withstand certain pressures and everything gets to the extreme. Some are in marriages but surviving because of kids or other unavoidable circumstances.
I have always been a believer of the word despite my crazy life. And so I kept praying to God that when I finally decide to settle down, may He give me a prayerful woman. In fact my thought was a woman who can pray for me and the children because i thought I'd be a drunkard forever. I didn't know about Proverbs 14:1, "The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish pulls it down with her hands." It's now that I've realized, all I was praying for was a wise woman.
My special advice today goes to those who've been in multiple intimate relationships and want to marry or get married. You might find it so hard to settle.The emotional and physical intimacy has power. It's like a covenant. The more the relationships the more the covenants. As you get intimate, there is synchronisation of the souls and transfer of spirits. Mostly evil spirits. You might end up attracting a spirit of divorce or adultery from someone unknowingly. Or any other character or behaviour that affects marriages.
So before you settle down, surrender to God and break these covenants. There are those that have strong bonds like children. They are dangerous and deadly chains that might haunt your union and family. For instance you are in a union but you are always thinking about your baby mama or baby daddy. Break that chain in Jesus name!! You might end up moving from one marriage to another forever. Pray that God becomes the strong foundation upon which your marriage is anchored. This is a secret someone might never tell you. When in it, keep praying and let communication be key. Talk to each other and iron out your issues frequently. Don't let them pile up.
Genesis 2:24: "Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh." For you to become one flesh, there is a strong spiritual bond.
If you are thinking marriage, keep of the 'marriage is a scam' phrase. The day you settle in it, it will be a scam forever.
I wish all marriages the best. May God's favor be upon them. May He lift them from one level of grace to another. Forever and ever, AMEN!
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