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Polyandry: We four brothers are married to one woman

The Champasingh Lama family, from the Humla area of ​​Fang Tungar in Tibet, has been considering polyandry for 17 generations. But, according to his son and granddaughter, the culture is now obsolete, said Champasingh.

He said, "We four brothers are married to one woman." Our young people refused to do that. Each is married to his wife. Chhodolma, the only wife of the four brothers, gave birth to eight boys and five girls. All the children are married except for her youngest son.

Education that was taught

According to Lama community elders, polyandry, which was said to be a house-to-house affair in the Lama community about two decades ago, has recently become a commonplace with only a few families.

"When younger generations are educated, they abandon that culture," says Rapdan Lama of Simkot Buraunse. Sange Tanjan Lama, a young man studying for his master's degree in Kathmandu, says that time has changed the culture of polyandry.

He said, "Education has taught us a lot. This culture is opposed by many people." It is said that due to the complexity of polyandry and individual liberties, the younger generation has not been able to develop this culture.

In the practice of polyandry, the brother who marries first, other brothers also have to accept his wife as their wife. However, if the younger siblings or other siblings are 8-10 years of age or older, they are allowed to marry another wife.

In the Lama community, it was customary for an older brother to marry at the request or consent of another brother to accept her as his wife.

Disagreement when living together

But in recent years, with the development of education and consciousness, Lama community leaders claim that this culture has been weakening as a result of tensions and conflicts between brothers.

In the past the community focused on livestock and trade. At that time one brother was involved in business and the other was involved in pastoralism and most of the time they were in different places. Meaning even if they are married to one wife it is not easy for them to live together.

"Because we live in different places, we used to get home on time," says Champhasin Lama, 80. "Now you don't have to go out and do livestock and trade." It is said that many young people have abandoned polyandry and started their courtship because of misunderstandings when all the brothers are living together.

Men and women alike also face challenges in polyandry. While the wife is living with her beloved brother, some brothers are experiencing the effects of old age.

In polyandry, the housewife becomes the wife and she is the one who hires the husbands. It is common to refer to the older brother only as a father when the children are older.

Lama community leaders claim that the ancestors accepted the practice of polyandry as there was no need to divide movable property and the workload was reduced. In Namkha Municipality of Humla District and Buraunse, Torpa, Limatang, Bargaun, Rimi, Dojam and other villages in Simkot Municipality, polyandry has been steadily declining.

This exercise is taking place in various villages of Humla, Lamjung, Gorkha, Mustang, Manang, Humla, Total, Dolpa, Taplejung and other districts of Nepal.

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