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Parenting without yelling

If you're like me, you've probably been working on your parenting skills for years. You know all the rules, have read every book on child development, and have done dozens of courses in child-rearing techniques. But this is just not enough to get it right every time. I found out the hard way that there's no one-size-fits-all approach to raising kids—not even close. So I decided to make a change when my second child was born: I would no longer be bound by what society deems appropriate or acceptable when it comes to parenting techniques or approaches. And because we are all different as human beings, each family is going to have their own unique set of needs and challenges while they raise their children—and that's okay!

When my second child was born, I decided to make a change. I had been told that if you have more than one kid and they’re all under the age of six, then it’s time to start yelling less—but how do you do that? You can't do everything the same way when you have two kids! You need to be flexible and patient with your children (and yourself) because no matter what stage your children are in, mentally, they will always be different from each other.

 1) Hurry up and wait—a lot.

 You may be surprised to learn that the way you parent is not the only way to parent. Parenting without yelling does not mean doing things any differently than you did before. It just means changing your approach a bit and remembering that there are many factors involved in raising a child, including patience and waiting for your kids' readiness before trying new things with them (like letting them babysit).

 2) Let them cry it out when you can

 You may be wondering why this is such a big deal. After all, your child will be fine and back to being their usual self soon enough. And you might even be tempted to think that if the crying doesn't stop in five minutes or so, then it's okay for them to cry themselves out—they'll need sleep sooner or later anyway.

 But here's the thing: we know what happens when children are allowed to cry themselves out without intervention from parents—they become tired and cranky (and possibly even angry). Their spirits feel drained, which makes them more prone to tantrums later on!

 So when should you let your child cry? It depends on several factors: how old they are; whether they're sick; if they've been through an emotional trauma recently... And there may come times when letting your child get it all out seems like the best option: perhaps when he has something stuck in his throat or feels overwhelmed with sadness over something else happening at school right now rather than two weeks from now when things will start getting better again after Christmas break ends, tomorrow morning--or maybe just because he needs some time alone with himself right now so he can work through some difficult feelings before starting up again next month once classes begin again after school holiday break ends December 27th...

 3) Tear up your parenting playbook.

 You don't have to follow a parenting playbook.

 You can be creative, but you need to be consistent.

 You can't change your child's personality, but you can help them grow into the best version of themselves.

 4) Make their toilet training about them.

In the early days of toilet training, you may find yourself feeling frustrated and annoyed by your child's behavior. You might even start yelling at them when they're not supposed to be touching their genitals or going after something that doesn't belong to them.

Instead of focusing on what your child is doing wrong (which will only make things worse), focus on how they feel after making a mistake: "Oh my gosh! I'm so sorry!" Then ask if there's anything else you can do to help fix things so that everyone feels better in the future. You could even offer some suggestions like getting dressed or putting away toys so that nothing gets broken during playtime later on down the road—even if this means asking for help from others around you for this plan of action to go smoothly!

 5) Show them how instead of telling them what to do.

 Show them how instead of telling them what to do.

This can be done in a variety of ways, but the most effective is by demonstrating how something works and then showing your child how it's done. For example, if you want your child to put their toys away after playing with them, show him/her where they go (on top of the dresser), and explain that this is where all his/her toys belong after he/she uses them. Then demonstrate how you put things away yourself—and while they're watching closely, ask them if he or she wants help putting things in specific places (like under beds).

 Both parents must show each other how things are done so that children learn self-reliance and independence as early as possible. If you don't know how something works yourself but have someone else around who does know about it (such as another parent), then ask for advice on what steps should be taken next rather than simply giving orders without explaining why these steps are necessary first!

 6) Listen with your eyes and ears.

 There are many ways to communicate with your child, but you must pay attention not just to what they are saying but also to how they are saying it. Look for clues in their facial expressions and body language: if they look concerned, ask them what is wrong; if you notice that they seem frustrated or angry, ask why; if they have an unhappy expression on their face as soon as you walk into the room, then chances are good that something went wrong earlier in the day or that there was some kind of conflict between them and someone else at home (or school).

 You can use nonverbal communication as well—for example, by using eye contact when listening closely enough so that both of you can understand each other clearly without having to repeat yourself too often during a conversation. Eye contact is especially powerful when used in tandem with verbal communication because it allows us humans access to each other's mindsets through our thoughts rather than just listening passively like someone who doesn't know how much effort goes into forming sentences correctly before speaking out loud."

 7) Let them fail safely.

The final step is to let your child fail safely. This can be hard because you want them to succeed and feel proud of themselves. But they must learn from their mistakes, rather than being rescued or coddled by you every time they do something wrong.

If your child is playing with a toy that looks dangerous (like a bouncy ball), don't try to move it out of their reach; instead, tell them why not doing so would be dangerous—and then leave them alone with the object until they've figured out how far away from other kids they should keep it while playing with a said toy!

 8) Give everyone snacks before you leave the house or go on a long car ride.

Snacks are a good idea. Make sure they're healthy and not just candy bars or chips. You can make your own, or buy them at the grocery store if you have time (and energy).

 Pack snacks in advance so that if you don't feel like cooking, there will always be something on hand for when the kids want to eat something before going out for the day; this way, they won't be tempted by junk food on the road!

 9) Lead by example—and make sure they're looking!

As a parent, you have the opportunity to set an example for your children. If you are consistent and fair with them, they will learn how to treat each other in the future.

Parents need to make sure that their children see them as leaders who can be trusted and respected by others. When someone behaves badly toward another person or group of people, it's important for the leader not only to reprimand but also to provide examples of how others should act when faced with similar situations later on in life (or even now). This goes beyond just yelling at your child when he/she misbehaves; it means teaching them how they should respond when someone else hurts their feelings or tells off-color jokes around him/her too often!

 10) Don't be afraid to ask for help—or accept it when it's offered.

 You're not alone. When you find yourself in a parenting situation that feels overwhelming, it can help to remember that you are not alone. There are other parents out there who have been through similar experiences and can offer you assistance and advice on how to navigate your emotions and decisions.

It's also important to remember that while we may feel like we need all the answers right away, sometimes those answers come later—and they might even come from outside of our immediate circle of family members or close friends. The point isn't always making the right decision at once; sometimes waiting allows us time for reflection before making another choice so we can make sure it's one worth making in the first place! While it might feel like every decision has an immediate impact on our lives now (and possibly going forward), this isn't always true—especially when considering long-term consequences like job opportunities or children's college funds."

These tips will help you parent in a way that is kinder, gentler, and more effective. Your child will learn more from your example than from your word. Listen to your child and be open to their ideas. Don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it. And don't be afraid to ask for help when you are ready to give it!

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