Even though some people never know exactly who they want to be for their whole lives, bad just wing it - and have full lives - to the grave, children, especially during puberty, never calm down when they get told to calm down and that their is so much more to life than these boxes they feel pressured to out themselves in. This can be frustrating for a parent and they can even give up on their child if the experimentation gets to the point where is seems the child is going to lose their minds trying to figure out who they are.
1) Support them in every way you can. The child wants to dye their hair green like the joker? Buy them a green dye and help them do it. They want to try go-kart for a while because they want to be like Schumacher some day? Take them to the go-kart track. As long as it poses no danger to their lives, support these children. Most of the times what happens is that they try something out, find out they don't like it and they will not ask you to help them do it for some time come. The downside of not supporting children is locking the up in the house and setting strict rules they must follow or else you will ground them for a week. Well, you can do that, but I tell you kids who feel restricted do unimaginable things behind closed doors. That is how they show their rebellion towards the iron fisted rule of their parent, so it is better to know whatever ridiculous thing they do in public than be in oblivion about the dark activity they do behind closed doors.
2) Keep an open door policy for your children. This way they will open up to you about their emotions, their fears, their relationships and what they feel like doing this time round. It is better to have a transparent relationship with your child than to exert full authority over their lives and have no idea who the child you call yours is. There is nothing wrong with bringing up a child under rules and regulations, but most of the parents who do this wake up one day - sometimes when it is too late - and realize they do not know this person standing in front of them who they sired or gave birth to.
3) Pray for them. Really, what more can you do when the teenager in your house is working on your nerves day in day out and you try to be as understanding and supportive a parent as possible? Take it to the Lord in prayer. He will set them right back in line.
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