Being a parent means you have to teach a human being how to survive in this crazy world of ours, so it’s pretty normal to make mistakes on that task.
I’d say some of the most common are:
1.Thinking that everything is like it used to be when you were young.
The world is in constant change and resilience is a key skill to have.
Being a kid today is not the same as being a kid 20 years ago. The Internet, social media, climate change, many things have taken over and things are not how they used to be.
Parents need to adapt to new circumstances and help their children be able to do the same, because the moment you get stuck in the past, you can’t move on and life becomes harder.
“That everything you see will soon alter and cease to exist. Think of how many changes you’ve already seen”– Marcus Aurelius.
2.Wanting your kids to be who you think they should be.
This is a very bad behavior than only leads to disappointments and frustration. Let your kids decide what they want to be when they grow up. Give them all the information they can get so that they have all the options and can make an educated decision.
Remember it’s their life, not yours. They have to live it in their own way, you’re just there to help and protect them while they can’t.
3.Not preparing your children for failure.
They’re going to fail at some point, that’s part of life and it will help them grow and learn from their mistakes.
So, show them how to love failure, how to fail better next time and how good it feels to succeed after all.Teach them to not be afraid. To be bold. Do not put them into a bubble so that they won’t get hurt, tell them to go out there and try as many things as they can, so that they get the taste of what it is to be alive make the most of their existence.
4.Parents Who are sole decision makers.
When your children are born and raised in an environment where their parents are always right and nothing can be questioned, they get the feeling the world is exactly like that. Drop the ego. Teach your children to question everything, even yourself.
Help them grow with a state of mind that looks for the truth and the right thing to do, so that they grow to be a better person. Encourage them to find options, to discuss points of view, to not just settle with what they hear, to respect others that think different.
5.Neglecting empathy and emotional intelligence.
Parents today, more than ever, need to prepare their children to be able to respond to anything, to any kind of person, to any event that they may face.
Children need to have as ground rules: empathy, kindness and gratitude, so that they know how to appreciate things and also how to interact better with other people so that everyone can benefit from it.
Teach them to be proactive and not reactive, so that they won’t be overwhelmed by everything around them and they will be able to live a happier life.
There only one way to raise your children, and that is trying to prepare them for anything.
We don’t know what the future will bring, but if they know anything can happen but they can be alright and happy regardless, if they are raised in a way the no matter what happens they keep walking.
That’s when they are indestructible and they can make the most out of their lives, and I guess that’s what you want for your kids, right?
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