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How to Say No Respectfully

Like most people, your natural instinct is probably to help others when you can. But sometimes, you just need to say no.Whether you're declining an invitation to a party or turning down a new project at work, you can say no while still being respectful. Give yourself some ground rules and be thoughtful in your response. If you feel it's necessary, you can also provide a reason for your answer. Whatever the situation, be clear, polite, and firm when saying no.

1. Give yourself rules about how much you can do. Your impulse might be to say yes to everything. This can result in you becoming exhausted, overbooked, and stressed out. Instead of defaulting to yes, be prepared to say no.You can do this by creating a structure for how you spend your time.

Maybe you are cranky if you go out more than two evenings in one week. If this is the case, create a rule for yourself that two nights is your limit. If someone asks you to do something after your limit is reached, you'll feel justified saying no.

2. Schedule your time carefully. Account for all of your activities. For example, if you plan to grocery shop on Saturday morning, mark it on your calendar. That way, if someone asks you to fill in as soccer coach on Saturday morning you can legitimately say that you already have something on your calendar.

You can even schedule things like alone time for yourself. This method can help you make sure that you get everything done that you need or want to do.Of course, if something important comes up, you can always be flexible and make an exception. For example, if you need to visit the dentist, you might have to cancel your relaxing Saturday morning.

3. Stick to your priorities. You can't do everything, so it is important to be able to give a respectful no.Write down your priorities each day, and commit to getting them done. If someone asks you to do something not in line with those goals, you can say no.

4. Ask yourself if you want to accept. Take a moment to think before you respond to an invitation. You don't have to accept every offer that you receive. If you try to stick to things that you actually want to do, you will likely feel happier and more relaxed.

If an acquaintance asks you to join their spin class and you're more of a yoga person, don't feel bad about declining. You can ask them if they'd like to join you in your class.You don't have to say yes every time someone asks you on a date. Even if you're in a relationship, you still need some alone time. You can say, Thanks for asking, but I really just feel like staying home alone. If your partner pressures you, you may want to reassess your relationship.

5. Focus on the benefits of saying no. It's normal to feel guilty for turning someone down. To keep yourself from feeling this way, try to remind yourself of the positive aspects of saying no. For example, maybe you'll feel much more rested if you turn down an invite to a party. Or maybe you can focus on a major project at work if you turn down a smaller, less important opportunity.

6. Keep your explanation simple. You have the option of not giving a reason or excuse for saying no. Remember, it is your right to decline to do things, and you don't own anyone an explanation. You can simply respond, no, but if you feel like adding more, you can still be respectful while keeping it simple.

7. Think before you speak. If you say no immediately, it might seem like you didn't even consider the request. In order to be respectful, take a moment to think about your answer even if you already know what it is going to be. Take a pause, and then kindly say no. You could say, Let me check my calendar. I believe I already have a commitment that weekend.Try counting slowly to three before responding. This way, you'll seem to be considering the request.

8. Make a positive statement. A respectful response is not one that sounds overly negative. When turning someone down, find a way to inject a positive attitude into your words. It also helps if you use a friendly tone of voice. For example, you could say, “Wow! A cookie exchange sounds like such a fun idea! I'm sorry that I won't be able to come. It sounds like I'll be missing a good time.

9. Show gratitude. Make it clear that you genuinely appreciate being asked. If you have to turn someone down, express your thanks that they thought of you in the first place. You could say something like, Thanks for considering me responsible enough to watch your kids. I'm sorry that I'm busy that evening. You can also say, I appreciate that you think I'd make a good team captain. However, I'm more comfortable not having a leadership role.

10. Offer encouragement. You can kindly turn down requests by including some friendly words. Try building the other person's confidence a bit. You can say, You've been doing great managing your new team. I'm not available to help you run the meeting, but I know you'll be just fine on your own.

Maybe one of your friends wants to take your relationship to the next level. Try saying, I know you're an awesome person. That's why I value you as a friend, and I'd love for things to stay that way.

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