Incidents have in the recent times flooded the media of individuals having given in to the vice, which is anger, with devastating consequences.
Kenyans on different days woke up to news of spouse mutilation, business related homicides to murder, suicides and even parental murders.
Last year alone, Kenyans witnessed a series of senseless murders and crimes of passion that were shocking.
One such horrific incident involved 34-year-old Major Peter Mugure who allegedly killed his Joyce Syombua and two children Shanice Maua, 10, and Prince Michael, before burying them in one grave in Thingithu in Nanyuki.
Another incident involved a middle aged man who is reported to have poured petrol on his 26-year-old wife, lit her up and watched her as she burned in Nakuru.
In August last year, a man in Kericho hacked his two children, aged six and four years, to death after quarreling with his wife over maize flour.
In July, news hitting headlines shook Kenyans after a 32-year-old woman hacked her husband to death , strangled her two children aged 14 and 3 years, before hanging herself inside their home at Thome, Nairobi.
Among the most publicized however, was the case of Jacqueline Mwende whose hands got chopped off by her husband, for allegedly being infertile.
The incident though sparking uproar and receiving attention from parliamentarians to various NGOS is sadly not an isolated case.
The single most asked question when this calamity happens then is why?
The perpetrators often claim that the act was ‘in a moment of anger’. That answer is often not satisfactory since the general public and more-so the victim or the bereaved can relate to having felt the anger without hurting others.
The question then begs what is this anger? Are there different types of anger?
According to Veronica Nyokabi, a psychologist, anger often describes feeling of annoyance, irritability and displeasure often accompanied by high energy levels.
Nyokabi further indicates that anger is often a manifestation of deeper move vulnerable feelings such as hurt and guilt which a majority of people feel too threatened to express.
The latter feelings left unresolved often lead to pathologies such as depression, drug and substance abuse and chronic stress which are often blamed for the heinous acts.
What then is the solution?
The first thing is to understand that feelings of anger are normal and the key to managing is to understand where the energy is located and channel that energy in a positive manner.
For instance, if your anger is located in your hands, engage in activities that involve the hands e.g chores, playing basketball.
In the event it is in the legs, Nyokabi says that you should try take a walk or run and then in a moment of calmness deal with the underlying issue.
Therapy is advised for chronic anger issues where one learns cognitive and behavioral techniques of dealing with anger in a non-judgmental and safe environment.
In all this, safe awareness and openness to feedback is key.
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